the spilled water lesson(s)

Maria Montessori said, “Never help a child with a task in which he feels he can be successful.”  This means that a child who is learning something new should be given the freedom to try to succeed.  If we as the adults rush in to “save the child”, the child will not learn.  Children learn through their activity, through their effort, and, very importantly, through their mistakes!  

Let us consider a child in our classroom.  He approaches the practical life area and sees a tray containing a small pitcher of water and a glass; it is a pouring work to practice control of movement.  He chooses to bring it to a table where a friend awaits.  The teacher is observing closely.  Perhaps this child has been shy about trying new things and here he is, ready to take on this challenge.  He has been given a lesson in carrying a tray with water and cup.  One must be very careful when lifting the tray, to turn slowly, and place each foot slowly, one in front of the other, as you move across the room, keeping one’s eye on the tray to keep it level.  He takes one step, two steps, he hears a bird call and his attention is drawn away from the tray.  The pitcher begins to slide…..!

The teacher is still watching.  They consider to themselves, “What is the best thing that could happen right now?” “What is the worst?”  We may think that the best thing to happen would be for the child to successfully walk across the room and gently place the tray and pitcher on the table.  How proud he will be!!  He did it!  And this would be wonderful, no doubt.  But let us consider the opposite outcome.  The tray tilts, the pitcher slides, the water, pitcher and cup all spill to the ground.  What does the teacher do?  The child is upset and so the teacher comes to his side and comforts him, yes, but very quickly asks him what he needs in order to clean the spill (a rag, they are kept by the sink), how to sweep up any pieces of pitcher or cup (a broom and dustpan hangs on the wall), how to wring the wet rag out (a bucket is under the sink), and how to tell his friends and classmates to be careful of the spot until it dries.

What are the lessons learned here?

  1. My teacher loves me.  They do not yell or scold me if I make a mistake. If I make a mistake in my math or reading, they will not be angry.  I have learned that it is a good thing to try things that are difficult. I will learn more if I take risks, try difficult math problems, sound out difficult reading words.
  2. When I make a mistake, there is a way that I can make it better. I have learned that math problems can be corrected, words can be erased and spelled correctly.  If I hurt a friend’s feelings, there is a way to make it up.  My actions have consequences, and I must deal with them, but I can try to correct my mistakes.
  3. This is how a spill is cleaned, I know where the tools are and how to use them.  I have learned that I can be independent. I can take care of things on my own.  I don’t realize that the movement of my arm in wiping the spill, and the fine motor control I exercised in wringing the water out will help me later when I learn to hold a paintbrush and pencil and learn to draw and write.
  4. The whole class has learned a lesson!  All eyes are on the teacher if the water spills, to see how they will react.  There is no scolding, no impatience, no anger.  Only calm and peace.  The rest of the children learn that this is a safe place.  Engage, try, fail, try again, succeed!

the power of three

When Montessori schools are tasked with parent education for their community, inevitably there are choices to be made regarding content.  Time is finite and precious when it comes to asking families to attend events at our schools.  With requisite parent conferences a few times a year, a “child shares their work” evening, a back-to-school night, and a myriad of performances or art shows or concerts, the calendar fills up with remarkable speed and density.  To which topics do we give priority?  The prepared environment? Essential.  Demonstrations of the materials? Very important!  Spotlights on Arithmetic or Cultural, or Geometry or Language?  Those topics will ground the parents in the curriculum.  But what about the Great Lessons?  It would be so very helpful if our parents were that well-informed, but short of requiring them to read articles and manuals, (perhaps we could quiz them later!), what do we present and what do we not present? While the examples above represent valuable concepts and information for parents to understand, there are less obvious but equally essential components of our classrooms, of our schools, that would benefit everyone if families could assimilate them into their knowledge of Montessori. One of which is the importance of the three-year cycle, academically, socially, and emotionally for the child.

Dr. Montessori’s understanding of the Planes of Development was predictive of so much science that we would come to understand years after her death.  It’s gratifying to be involved in Montessori in this time period as virtually every educational or even neurological study done in the last twenty-five years supports what she proposed well over a century ago.  We structure our environments around these planes of common characteristics, the rising and ebbing of sensitive periods and child development.  We understand that children move through these periods of their lives regardless of whether or not they are fortunate enough to be in a Montessori classroom; we can provide the very materials each child needs to fully engage with those developmental areas most appropriate. There is a rhythm to the three-year cycle, a scope and sequence that moves our students from concrete ideas to abstraction. It is an uninterrupted chain of presentations that engages the child seamlessly to understanding, and this is true for every area in the curriculum. In September, children moving up to the next level find themselves the youngest in the classroom. They adapt themselves to their new environment, new friends and teachers, new expectations, but they do so following a familiar path. These are not new kingdoms moving from Primary to Lower Elementary, LE to UE, and Upper Elementary to the Junior Class or outside our school. 

There is also an underlying rhythm that moves the community through three years together. My role as the youngest in the room is the proverbial “learning the ropes”, but three years later I am the wise elder at 6 years old, 9 years old, 12 years old, or a graduating Junior. Children are well-aware of these evolutions; at our school any self-respecting five-year old understands that they are now “Stended Day”, not quite able to wrap their tongue around the word, “extended”.

For Montessorians, I would posit that the three year cycle is akin to Dr. Montessori’s Three-Period Lesson.  From a teaching aspect, it forms the structure around any single lesson, the familiar “This is….”, “Show me….”, and “What is…….?” construct. This is a triangle, this is a square, this is a circle. Show me the square.  Show me the triangle.  Show me the circle. What is this?  And this? And this?  The Three Period Lesson, we would argue is of crucial importance to our lessons. But we can take this same form and extrapolate to something much larger.  The First Period is one of taking in information. In many ways, this serves as an apt description of the first year in any one program level. The Second Period, our Show Me stage, is one where the child engages with concepts in context, they are given information in a manner that references past knowledge, which is a fair understanding of the second year student’s experience. Finally, the child arrives at the Third Period, the Third Year, the culmination, the collecting and discrimination, the synthesizing and internalization that marks both the lesson in microcosm and their classroom experience in macro.

My work as an Admissions Director at this long-established (nearly 40 years old) Montessori school in the Seacoast area of New Hampshire, includes tours for applicant families that are more parent education about Montessori than anything specific regarding the Cornerstone School.  Among the many salient points regarding this  pedagogy, I always stress the importance of the three-year cycle while also stressing that each program builds upon the previous, and that the greatest benefit gained from a Montessori education is when a child can move from program to program.  The program levels are not islands, but one comprehensive curriculum.  I know I’m not alone in this effort and that our teachers are reinforcing the same message. And still there are parents who consider opting out after the second year of Primary or the second year,  (usually 5th grade) of Upper Elementary.  We can clearly understand the financial stresses of our constituent parents, and that a 12-plus year commitment to an independent school tuition is out of the question for many families, especially those with siblings. This should be fully acknowledged, and there are many families who commit to the three years of a Primary program, knowing that they will be elsewhere for first grade. This is appropriate, and such a gift to invest in the child at 3 – 6 years old, rather than just at 18.

The third year at any level in a Montessori school brings closure, academically, socially, and emotionally. Every curriculum area is written and presented knowing that the abstraction, the internalizing of concepts, awaits the child in that culminating third year. Further, to rob the child of being the wise elder, the responsibilities that come with that stature, will also diminish the child’s educational experience.  Ultimately, it is the responsibility of the heads of schools, admissions directors, guides, and experienced parents to educate families about the importance of “finishing a cycle”.  How else are they to know?  Trained Montessorians with years of experience can sometimes forget that what we take as evident is to most of our families a mystery, an unseen component in the great work that engages their children every day, including the power of that third year.  Let’s shine the light here, too.